Kristin Cavallari is opening up about her past relationships and the emotional patterns that have shaped her love life. In a candid episode of her podcast, “Honestly Cavallari: The Headline Tour,” the reality star and entrepreneur shared her insights on why she often finds herself drawn to emotionally unavailable men.
During a heartfelt discussion on June 11, 2025, Cavallari, 38, reflected on her experiences and how her upbringing played a significant role in her romantic choices. She pointed the finger at her father, whom she described as a “narcissist,” for instilling feelings of inadequacy in her. “I think because my dad is a narcissist, he always made me feel like I wasn’t good enough,” she confessed. “For so many years, I was attracted to similar types of men who were emotionally unavailable.”
This revelation came as she navigated her podcast tour, which has been a mix of emotional highs and lows. During the tour, she encountered awkward comments from her exes that triggered memories of past relationships. “For me, it’s so triggering because every guy in my life, including my own f*ing dad, has done this s* to me,” she expressed, visibly upset. “Everyone is so f***ing insecure. I’m over it.”
Cavallari’s reflections on her past are a stark contrast to the confident persona she portrayed on reality television shows like “Laguna Beach” and “The Hills.” “It’s crazy because everyone thought I was so confident growing up, but really, I was insecure,” she admitted. “I was actually in survival mode. Had I really loved myself, I wouldn’t have put up with a lot of the bulls*** I did.”
The former star of “The Hills” has undergone significant personal growth since her split from NFL player Jay Cutler in 2020. “The last five years have been instrumental for me,” she shared in a previous interview with Us Weekly. “I’ve allowed these men into my life, and I can see it a mile away now, and that’s just a nice reminder of how far I’ve come.”
Cavallari’s journey towards self-discovery and healing has been a priority for her. Currently single, she is focusing on her podcast, “Let’s Be Honest,” and her successful jewelry and beauty brand, Uncommon James. As she moves forward, she is determined to be more discerning about who she allows into her life. “I’m going to be really serious about who I let into my life from now on,” she stated firmly.
Her candid discussions about her past relationships and her father’s impact on her self-esteem resonate with many listeners who may have faced similar struggles. Kristin’s willingness to confront her emotional baggage is not only empowering for her but also serves as an inspiration for others navigating their own relationship challenges.
As her podcast continues to gain traction, Cavallari’s fans are eager to hear more about her journey of self-discovery and personal growth. “Honestly Cavallari: The Headline Tour” airs on E! Wednesdays at 10 p.m., and previous episodes are available for streaming on Peacock.
In sharing her story, Kristin Cavallari is not just revisiting her past; she is paving the way for a brighter and more fulfilling future, one where she prioritizes her happiness and well-being above all else.